“I think the first line of support, ideally, is friendship, and a lot of people right now don’t have any friends.” Dean Spade (@spade.dean) became a go-to for guidance on mutual aid during the pandemic. Now he’s back with a book of advice on love and relationships. In a candid conversation with Angelica Castro-Mendoza, Spade explains why he thinks the self-help genre has radical potential despite its tendency to individualize solutions to social problems, and how interpersonal conflict derails movements.