Do you have gently used or new social justice focused books? Mariame Kaba (featured in episode 5 of Love in a F*cked Up World), is collecting books to help keep Bluestockings Cooperative Bookstore open. Bluestockings is such an important and radical space in NYC. Please donate and spread the word if you can!
This week I spoke with longtime activist and author Dean Spade about the complexities of relationships and the challenges we face in a society shaped by disposability culture. We discussed the fear of being wrong in public and of conflict and feedback. He spoke about why self-help often falls short in addressing systemic issues and shared some insights from his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World, which offers practical advice on navigating personal growth and connection in a world that often feels isolating and disconnected. I loved both the book and this conversation. Let us know if you listen!
I got the chance to talk with these brilliant siblings about loving each other in collapse times.
Loved this conversation with Nora and Marcus about relationships, autonomy, isolation, resistance, masculinity, and so much more.
I wrote something for them about how we need every single person to join in the fight to care for each other and resist our opponents’ nightmare world, and how to get started.
In this episode of LaidOPEN Podcast, I have an insightful conversation with activist and author Dean Spade about his extensive work in movements for queer and trans liberation, anti-militarism, and the abolition of police and prisons.
Dean and I discuss his new book titled ‘Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together,’ covering topics such as mindful practices for managing stress, the evolution of his book over nine years, and personal growth in relationships.
We also delve into the romance myth, decentralizing romantic relationships, and the importance of community support. Dean shares valuable insights and practices for generating internal safety and the importance of collective care in social movements.
This episode is an enriching dialogue aimed at anyone interested in social justice, personal growth, and transformative community practices.
Teen Vogue asked Olúfẹ́mi O. Táíwò, adrienne maree brown, Kelly Hayes, Dean Spade, and more about how to keep going under the strain of a second Trump administration.
I am so excited to announce Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast! The first episode is out today — a conversation with adrienne maree brown — and I’ll be releasing new episodes every two weeks for the next few months. Look out for conversations with Tourmaline, Mariame Kaba, Weyam Ghadbian, Prentis Hemphill, and Shira Hassan. And Morgan Bassichis (@morgankindof) and I recorded six mini-episodes focusing on tools for addressing specific problems and tangles, like long distance dating, deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship, dealing with hard feelings like jealousy and possessiveness, and how to de-escalate a crush when you want to.
I hope you’ll listen, share with friends, and subscribe. Available wherever you get your podcasts:
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Huge gratitude to my producer Hope Dector, Ciro (@dogtownstudio), and to The Ballet (@theballetnyc) for the theme song.
The ladies are joined by the incredible Dean Spade to talk about everything from awkward medical appointments to building powerful relationships in activist movements. Dean shares insights from his book Love In a Fucked Up World and dives into topics like societal grief, friendship, emotional connection, and why resistance is a team sport. Plus, we keep it real (and funny) with travel stories, organizing chaos, and comedy-world awkwardness.
Sam and Jamie speak with Dean Spade about his new book, Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together. Why did Dean decide to write a self-help book geared towards organizers, and what are the stakes of this work? Why has neither Sam nor Jamie ever seen an accountability process succeed? What openings does he see for the left to take up self-improvement as a non-reactionary project? All this, plus the hosts get candid about some of their own experiences.