“Our movements are pretty much just made of our relationships — whether we can move together, coordinate, collaborate, figure out disagreements [and] stay loyal to each other when the repression comes down,” says Dean Spade. In this episode Dean and Kelly discuss the lessons of Dean’s new book, Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.
“I think the first line of support, ideally, is friendship, and a lot of people right now don’t have any friends.” Dean Spade (@spade.dean) became a go-to for guidance on mutual aid during the pandemic. Now he’s back with a book of advice on love and relationships. In a candid conversation with Angelica Castro-Mendoza, Spade explains why he thinks the self-help genre has radical potential despite its tendency to individualize solutions to social problems, and how interpersonal conflict derails movements.
n this episode of ‘Friendless,’ host James Avramenko meets and converses with Dean Spade—a lawyer, writer, and activist known for his work on queer and trans liberation. Dean discusses his new book, ‘Love in a Fucked Up World,’ and explores themes such as the importance of enthusiasm during tough times, the necessity of grounding oneself in reality, and the complexities of personal and community responsibility. The conversation delves into creating authentic connections, building community support systems, the significance of direct feedback, and the challenges of maintaining self-respect while engaging in activism. Dean also shares personal anecdotes, including his journey in writing his latest book and how inspiration serves as a form of protection and guidance.
Had a great time talking to the folks at Mistakes Were Made, a podcast about nonmonogamy.
Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it’s all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation.
Shareable recently hosted me for a Mutual Aid 101 workshop and posted the video publicly.
