Interview with Xtra Magazine
Interview with The Creative Process Podcast
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you’re just getting into our movements, or if you’ve been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”
New Podcast Interview: Mutual Aid Podcast
I was thrilled to be the first guest on the new Mutual Aid Podcast. Very fun conversation with people who are deeply engaged with mutual aid work and coming from non-US locations. You can listen here:
Conversation with Susan Stryker Hosted by Them
Grateful to Wren Sanders and Them for inviting Susan Stryker and I to this conversation about how to navigate this terrifying moment of the second Trump presidency, including advice for campus activists, reflections on trans history, and more. If you visit the page where they posted about it and scroll down you can find some cute clips of the conversation.
New Interview with Gender Reveal Podcast
Such a treat to talk to Tuck and Ozzy about my new book, the dangers facing trans people during a second Trump administration, how we fight back and survive, and much more.
Interview with the Sad Francisco Podcast
As liberation movements face intense repression from CEOs, cops, landlords, politicians, and Zionists, Dean Spade and friends put together a list of questions we can all ask ourselves, so we don’t reproduce the logics of the state.
Dean is author of the classics Mutual Aid and Normal Life: Administrative Violence and the Limits of the Law, and future classic Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.
New Article in Truthout
New Book! Out January, Pre-Order Now
My new book will be out January 14, 2025!
Around the globe, people are faced with spiraling crises, from the pandemic and climate change-induced disasters to the ongoing horrors of mass incarceration, genocide, racist policing, endemic gender violence, and severe wealth inequality. More and more of us feel mobilized to fight back, often dedicating our lives to collective liberation. But even those of us who long for change seem to have trouble when it comes to interpersonal relationships. Too often we think of our political values as outward-facing positions again dominant systems of power. Many projects and resistance groups fall apart because people treat each other poorly, trying desperately to live out the cultural myths about dating and relationships that we are fed from an early age. How do we divest from cultural programming that gives us harmful expectations about sex, dating, romance and friendship? How do we recover from the messed up dynamics we were trained in by childhood caregivers? How do we bring our best thinking about freedom into step with our desires for healing and connection? Love in a F*cked-Up World is a resounding call to action and a practical manifesto for how to combat cultural scripts and take our relationships into our own hands, so we can stick together while we work for survival and liberation. Pre-order through Bluestockings and get 15% off with the code F*CKED<3.
Click here to watch the webinars I did with Fireweed Collective over the last four Valentine’s Days about dismantling the romance myth, which capture some of the themes of the book.
Video: Defending mutual aid
Don’t miss this recent webinar, packed full of info about the current ways that mutual aid work is being criminalized and attacked, and how organizers can keep doing our work even as pressures build.
New Interview with Sad Francisco Podcast
It was delightful, as always, to talk with Toshio Meronek about nonprofitization, queer resistance, gentrification, cops and more. Check it out.